Magnetic Monday – Words have Power

Do you “should” on yourself?

Do you “should” on your friends or family?

When you “should” on yourself, you are constricting your energy. It cuts you off from your life force and creativity.

And it just plain does not feel good!

So, what do you do?

That is what this episode of The Quantum Success Show is all about.

There are two other phrases that are also a really good idea to change to something different.

Shifting small words can shift you energetically and help you manifest a different reality.

Let me know what words you are going change this week.

Have a wonderful week!


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  1. Great reminder for me about use of language and how empowering a change in the words can be. However, I do find the ‘I can’t afford it’ thing challenging because I don’t feel that I am ‘not choosing to buy something’. My choice would be to buy whatever it is or spend the money but because I don’t have the cash I feel restricted. I feel the money is making the choise for me! Any ideas about how to change that feeling?

    • Christy Whitman says:

      Great point, Hazel. You only want to say it if it brings more relief and not tension. So . . . what would feel better for you other than “I can’t afford it?” How about “I choose to spend my money on my rent this month instead?” or “I choose to save my money for something else?” It really needs to be a shift in energy and perception from lack to abundance and words can help with that energy:)

  2. That “should” creeps back in so easily I have been working on that for a long time – I never thought of “have to” as being negative – but you are right “get to” has a much better feel. The I can’t afford it can put you so far behind financially even into not having enough for the basics. Be really careful of this one!

  3. This is really cool stuff. I also have another change of words to add that Makes a huge difference and opens up more possibilities to everything we don’t do because we use the word BUT….Changing the word BUT to AND … Example – I really want to go the beach BUT I need to clean my house …. change to … I really want to go to the beach AND I need to clean my house… So now it’s a positive thing to do both xxx

  4. Hi Christy,

    Thank you so much for the great video! My husband and just started working on this concept 2 weekends ago. Instead of feeling upset and saying “we have to spend our money on toilet paper, or stamps, or a new hot water heater” we are now saying “we GET to spend our money on these things.” It’s amazing what a shift we’ve both felt internally, AND maybe even more exciting, the shift we’ve noticed in our bank accounts. Suddenly it feels like we have plenty of money!

  5. Thanks Christy for sharing this empowering Video.

    I say “I am committed to doing this…” It helps me stay connected with my Core self and gives me strength and inspiration to do it.

  6. Shirley Del Vecchio says:

    Hi Christy,

    I just loved your take on works. I am guilty of using, should, why, and other words that
    not loving. So, thank you so much for bringing that to me.
    with love

  7. Thank you Christy! I have a lot of should with my mom and my brother, which I want to change. The other words I am going to change are “yes, but …” Have a wonderful week. Irene

  8. francine langeveldt says:

    I need to change my anger. It makes me burst out no too quick. My fuse r very short. Someone bragged recently they r so hot they make others{ myself} spark. I’m tired of being seen as a troublemaker. Speaking the right things to early. Help me. My ph can’t open ur videos what can I do I dnt ave a computor too. Any other ideas what I can use?. Thx a million u helped me seeing myself.

  9. This is a great topic, and re-minder of something that can be very debilitating in the productivity process. You are correct – saying “should” constantly is very counter-productive, and whenever I say it, I take note of how I FEEL….which is sort of downtrodden. It’s like I’m making a judgement on myself, or something. Or like I feel someone else is watching over me…waiting to see if I do what I’m “supposed to”.

    That feeling, to me, is too close to “guilt”, and I am a big proponent of being guilt-free. Not to the point where I am going to be just doing whatever ego wants me to do, like overindulging in things that are obviously bad for me…but just so that I am living a relatively free-flowing existence, where the good things are happening and I am making progress.

    So once again, thanks for the re-minder, Christy! Many blessings to you! :-)

  10. Hi have a quick follow up. What about I should have? I would love to hear your feedback! Thanks so much, I watch every Monday. The information you share is so helpful!
    Warmly, Tanya Marinelli

    • Christy Whitman says:

      It is the same. When you “should have” done something you are beating yourself up for something that you can’t change or have no control over. Instead “In the future I will choose to do X.” Now you are speaking about the future which you do have control over and not the past for what is done is done:) Does that help?

  11. Charlene Potterbaum says:

    Christy, dear heart, always good to have a reminder as we so often forget…wanted to share that recently I made a declaration to my grandson. I said, “Just wanted you to know that I no longer make mistakes.” He said, “hate to tell you this, Gram–but everybody make mistakes–all the time.” I replied “Not me! But man, do I ever have a butt load of ‘learning experiences'” and he liked that. I said, “but doesn’t the word ‘mistake’ make you feel awful? Like you are a loser, never do anything right–worthless, etc?” And he agreed. He also liked the feel of it when I said, “but a learning experience? Wow, I just learned something about myself and it really felt good…” so we had a good time with it. Then, he got tickled when I said, “also, I literally CUT the word “impossible” out of my dictionary! Not sure what I whacked out on the other side of the page, though…as I never looked back”

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