One of Christy’s celebrity coaching clients asked her a question: “If an opportunity comes your way and you say no to it, are you telling the universe that you are not open to opportunities?” We are told that life has so many opportunities, yet it can be overwhelming to accept all of them. What then should you do? Celebrate the closeness of the match. Find out what it means as you learn the steps in considering which opportunities to take.
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Celebrating The Closeness Of The Match
What I want to do on this episode is on the closeness of the match. I had someone asked me recently, “If opportunities come to you and you say no, is that basically telling the universe that you don’t want what it has like you’re shutting the universe?” What I say to that is it’s not possible to take every single opportunity that comes to you or say yes to everything. That’s why we have to decipher within ourselves what’s a yes and what’s a no. One thing you can do is you can celebrate the closeness of the match. Say, for example, you’re looking for a guy, you’re looking for a date or you’re looking for a man to have in your life. You go on a date and the guy had some qualities but he didn’t have other qualities that you wanted, celebrate the closeness of the match.
Celebrate the fact that he had some of those qualities and that puts more focus on the qualities that you did want and less on the qualities that you don’t want. A celebrity was asking me this question and I said, “Don’t take every role even if it’s not the right role for you. Celebrate that it’s closer. What are the qualities or characteristics of that role that gets you excited? What are the things that you’re noticing that are similar to the big dream that you have and celebrate those things, but don’t shun everything away going, “That wasn’t it.” Celebrate the closeness of the match allows you to get into that place of expecting what you want will come.”
To wrap it all up, the steps that you want to do is number one, get clear. You want to be clear on whatever it is that you’re intending for and the visions that you have. You want to know what it is for you and get some good mental pictures in your mind. We think in pictures. We think in images. Get clear with the kind of person that you want to attract, the success that you want to have or the career that you want to have. What are the specific things? Second, you want to see as things start to manifest, what’s a yes and what’s a no. For example, what is close to what your picture was and focus on that and then look at the contrast. What didn’t show up in the way you wanted it to?
Then you have to number three, celebrate and look at the closeness of the match. I’ll give you a personal example. Years ago, I declared that I wanted to be on The Ellen DeGeneres Show. I did everything to work towards those steps. I got a media reel done. I started doing lots of media. One day, it happened. My PR person said, “I got you two VIP tickets to be on The Ellen DeGeneres Show.” We were in a great section. She came by and we high fived her. I was with my husband Frederic. It was amazing because we were sitting in the seats right behind the people that were supporting the guest on the show. She was a guest that was talking about bullying. One of the things I wanted to go on The Ellen DeGeneres Show for is talk about bullying and how we could fix bullying.
Here I am with the family that’s watching their family member on stage with Ellen and I’m in the frame. Instead of going, “That’s not what I meant when I said I wanted to go on The Ellen DeGeneres Show. I wanted to be a guest.” I celebrated the closeness of the match because I was on The Ellen DeGeneres Show. I was clear I wanted to be on The Ellen DeGeneres Show. I still have that as a desire. It’d be so much fun to connect with her. I looked at what was a yes. Yes, I got on the show. I got on TV in the frame. I was in the frame when they were talking about what I wanted to specifically talk about. Those are all yeses. What was a no for me was I wanted to be the one in the chair. I revised what my vision was, what my manifestation is. I want all of that but I want to be the guest sitting next to Ellen in the chair.
Really look for the closeness of the match and celebrate that because as you do, you get closer and closer. Who knows when I’ll be on Ellen, but I do believe it’s possible. It was a manifestation that happened, it just needed to be refined and be more specific. I celebrate that. I hope this has been helpful. Please leave me a comment. Let me know what you’re going to celebrate the closeness of the match. What’s manifesting in your life? Get clear. Figure out what are a yes and a no and celebrate the closeness of the match of what’s manifesting for you.
