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Magnetic Monday – January 30, 2012

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jump Magnetic Monday   January 30, 2012What brings joy into your life? Are you aware of what makes you happy? Are you holding an image of what life will be like one day when you are happy, but not feeling that sense of joy right now, today?

Find your center and magnetize to yourself all those things that are in alignment with your inner being.

How?

  • Take 68 seconds to think about all the things that bring you happiness. Think of all the people, situations, circumstances, and everything else that you feel grateful for in this moment.
  • Spend time connecting to the field of gratitude. Let this go from your head into your heart so that you are really feeling it inside your body.
  • What is this feeling? Is it freedom, abundance, success, love?
  • Expand this feeling even more. Imagine that you have a dial, and you are increasing the amount of energy in your body by turning up the dial.
  • Spend a few moments in this space.

Enjoy your week!

Much love,

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Magnetic Monday – January 23, 2012

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imagine Magnetic Monday   January 23, 2012Here we are again! I hope you had a great weekend. I also intend that these tips are helping you create even more and more positive experiences in your reality. I hope you are witnessing how truly powerful you are and how you can magnetize what you want into your life.

Did you know that one of the powerful tools that you have to create what you want is your natural ability to imagine? Everyone has this ability. Some have practiced with this tool, while others were told not to imagine. We have that ability within us to imagine what we want to create in our future.

When you imagine, you are connecting with higher and finer energies. Imagination is not bound by time, space, or our physical environment. When we are imagining, we do it with a sense of joy and excitement. This relaxes us and makes us even more magnetic to what we desire.

Be aware that you can also use your imagination to create fear or what you don’t want. Be aware that you are always imagining. The question is, where are you spending your time? When you catch yourself imagining or projecting into a future that you do not want, stop and start thinking about what you do want.

Try this:

  1. Sit quietly just for a few moments and pretend you are living what you want. The subconscious does not know the difference between pretending and what is actually happening. It accepts whatever you pretend as real and will create it in your reality.
  2. Magnetize your goal to you. Just pretend you know how to do this, and you will soon see your goals manifesting. Connect with the vibration of this goal, and you will soon be experiencing it.

Have a great week and have fun magnetizing.

Much love,
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Magentic Monday – January 16, 2012

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This Magnetic Monday’s tip is on the subject of receiving feedback from your environment. Whatever you are experiencing in your reality is feedback from the Universe of what you are sending out with your thoughts, feelings, emotions, and ultimately, your vibration.

feedback Magentic Monday   January 16, 2012Feedback is an important part of our reality as deliberate creators. Because of the Law of Attraction, our actions create reactions from the Universe. It is important to be able to observe what reactions your actions cause, and ultimately, create.

If you want to magnetize more love in your life, you need to give out love. If you have someone in your life that pushed your buttons, instead of judging and criticizing them, send them thoughts of love.

The negativity that others have within them is not about you. It is their own pain and confusion, and they project it from that set point. Instead of reacting to them, if you look beyond the pain and view them with compassion (which is a form of love – one of the highest vibrations in the Universe), you will be in a space of allowing. You will also magnetize to you their great and higher qualities, because that is what you are focused on.

If you look for the negative and criticize, all they can do is show you where you are focused. If you look for their positive qualities and allow their negative qualities, you will soon see more of their positive ones on a more consistent basis.

This makes you more attractive to what you desire.

Have a great week, you amazing and powerful creator.

Much love,

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What are you declaring?

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We truly are powerful beings. When we declare something with feeling and conviction, the Universe will help us create what we are asking for, good or bad. So make it a point to declare what it is that you want in your life.

Write a list of your desires without judging them. Every day read the list at least once. If you can, read it three times a day because three is the number of a contract, and this makes a deeper impression in your subconscious.

Think of all aspects of your life and what you want in each area: physical, financial, career, relationships, social, mental, emotional and spiritual. After you have read your list of desires, read the following affirmation with feeling and conviction:

“What I can conceive of, I can manifest with the help of the Universe. The Universe is an outer manifestation of my inner world of ideas, emotion, vision and desire. All around me is evidence of ideas that were initially energy which manifested into a form of something. I believe in the process, and I can experience it working all around me and in my life. I am a rich child of a loving father and mother. Divine Intelligence is now showing me how to claim my own wealth, health and happiness which is my natural birthright. Divine Intelligence is now even opening all the paths known and unknown for my immediate blessings.
I have faith that all that is mine by Divine right now comes to me in rich abundance. My abundant blessings do not interfere with anyone else’s good, since the Universe’s abundance is rich in substance, unlimited, and everywhere for everyone to tap into. All that is not for my highes

Magnetic Monday – Jan. 9, 2012

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Did you know that EVERYTHING is energy? Energy exists all around you. It exists as thoughts and feelings that you and others project.

mm2 img1 Magnetic Monday   Jan. 9, 2012You are an amazing energy-sensing device. You can sense energy in many ways. The more you can sense energy, the more you can hear your inner guidance and your higher wisdom. You can even sense the energy from your future self.

Your future self is constantly sending thoughts and pictures to you about what is in your future. It is important to become conscious of the images that you are experiencing. If you are holding negative thoughts and images in your mind, do this process to become more magnetic to what you desire.

  1. Stop and monitor the thoughts and feelings you are experiencing.
  2. Surround yourself in love and light and project a healing image of yourself now and in the future.
  3. Imagine connecting with a part of you that is in the future. You might be able to sense the energy, see an image of your future self, or even hear him/her. This takes practice. Pay attention and be silent. As you think intently about something, you will begin to receive guidance, ideas, and new thoughts about it.
  4. Assume an attitude of confidence and trust that all is well (because it really is).

As you connect with a future self that is living a positive and loving future, you will create those feelings of peace and harmony in your now. That will make you magnetic to your heart’s desires.

Have a fantastic magnetic week.

Much love,

Christy

Magnetic Monday – January 2, 2012

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I want to let you know that starting this week, every Monday I will be posting to my blog and sending an email to those signed up for my newsletter, a quick tip to help you become magnetic to what you want in your life. I am calling these “Magnetic Monday.”

Each email/post will be short and packed with valuable tools to help you become more attractive to anything you want to accomplish, create, or experience in your life.

Tip for this Monday:

Sit in a comfortable position. Use every sense you have. Feel your breathing in your chest, face, mouth and throat. You have many ways of sensing energy. It is up to you to pay attention to them. Just be really present and aware of all the energy in your environment. Take a minute to listen to every sound in and outside the room you are in. Become aware of your sense of smell, touch, of the feeling of the clothes on your body, and what you are sitting on. Pay attention to any taste in your mouth (oops, you may need a breath mint smiley Magnetic Monday   January 2, 2012). Close your eyes and think of all the things you have looked at today so far. What pictures stand out for you that you put on your movie screen?

When you are this present, you also have the ability to sense energy. You sense energy all the time whether you are aware of it or not. As you closed your eyes to think of what you have seen today, you used a process called visualization. The process of visualization can transform energy from negative to positive.

To do this, you will need to be aware of yourself and be able to clear your mental and emotional set point. You do this by relaxing. Here is a great way to relax. It only takes a moment, and you can do it several times a day when you feel tense or disconnected from yourself.

Take a deep breath and picture warmth and lightness spreading throughout your body. Mentally go through your body and observe any areas of tension (mental, emotional, physical). Let those areas relax. Practice relaxing yourself at least a few more times throughout the day today.

Become aware of your body when it tenses up and then do this process.

Have a great week.

Much love,

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How to Do Less and Achieve More

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My Taming Your Alpha Bitch co-author, Rebecca Grado, and I were guest bloggers this week on the College, Career, Life blog. Read our post here:

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Interview on Prosperity Radio

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Yesterday I was interviewed by the talented Ryan Harris of Prosperity Radio. Click here to listen to the recording!

Higher Vibration of Light

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What energy do you hold people in?

One of the single most important things you can do to raise your own vibration is to hold other people in a high light. It also affects them and their energy and life path more than you can even imagine. Let’s look at how it affects you and then what it means when you affect others.

First, when you are holding a high light for others, it automatically puts you in a higher vibration of light. This affects your energy and everything that you create. I realized this years ago when I first started to coach and do my group coaching classes. I realized that as I hold a high space for my clients, they were affected, but so was I. When you are thinking of someone, and you are criticizing or judging that person in your mind, it actually lowers your vibration. If you can think of all the things that are good and right about a person, it raises your vibration. What we give out in our energy does affect others, and ultimately, ourselves.

Rebecca and I write about this in Taming Your Alpha Bitch when we explain the Law of Oneness. What you do to yourself or to another affects everyone, because we are all one. When you are critical of yourself, it not only affects you but also the people around you because your vibration has been affected, and they pick up on that. Also, when you are being critical of yourself, you are then holding that energy for others. When I find myself being critical of myself, I also find myself being critical of my husband, kids, friends, parents, and even my employees. And they all feel it. When I connect back to my love and abundance, not only does it affect me and the way I feel (and what I attract) but it affects them as well. Even though we are separate, we are all connected by energy and the Divine and therefore, we are all one.

So not only does holding a higher light for someone else affect you, but it also affects that person and his/her own path. I have two great examples of how holding a higher light for someone leads to a more positive future.

When I was a baby, my mother chose a woman named Marianne to be my godmother. She is the most loving, kind, gentle, and nurturing woman that I have ever met. She is evidence that there are angels among us. She always called me her “precious godchild” and you could just see in her eyes how much she adored me.

My mother would call me a pain in the ass. She would tell the story of how I was a horrible child because I never ate, I never slept, and I never did what I was told (go figure). I would fight her on everything. One day when I was an adult, I was having lunch with both my mother and my godmother. My mom started her story of how bad I was as a kid. My godmother then started talking about how sweet, beautiful, and radiant I was. I literally stopped them and said, “Are you both talking about the same child?”

It really hit me in that moment that when I was with my mother, who expected me to show up as a pain in the ass, I did. I felt for many years that she brought out the worst in me. All of the shadow parts of myself would come out when I was with my mother. However, when I was with Marianne, I would find myself even more loving, kind and connected. The best of me would come out when I was in her presence. Interesting!

I also realize now, as I am looking back on parts of my life, that I had another great influence in my life: my friend Eileen. To this day (and I have known her for over twenty years), she is still one of my biggest cheerleaders (and I am blessed to have many). When I sent out an email to all of my family and friends that my new book written with Rebecca, Taming Your Alpha Bitch, was coming out and they could pre-order it, she was the first one that bought it. She was also the first one to watch television appearances and say, “Way to go, girl!” And it dawned on me what a dark place I was in my life when I met her. She saw only the best in me and my greatest potential.

I was thinking about her, and it made me reflect on my college years with her. When she became my roommate in college, I was a mess. I was just put on probation at Arizona State because my grades were bad. I was going out every night in clubs and getting drunk with my girlfriend. I was attracting guys who were the bottom of the barrel. I was maxed out on credit cards. And I did not feel good about myself and my future.

Eileen was the one that held the light for me even when I could not see it for myself. She would ask me why I would date these guys that had no future when I was such a “catch.” I could not answer her, because back then I did not feel like such a “catch.” I was attracting the type of guys that I thought I deserved. I even remember some really nice and good looking guys that asked me out, but I was never interested in them. I just liked the guys that worked in bars, smoked pot, did not have any type of future, and were disrespectful to me.

Eileen continued to hold the light for me through my darkest days, and she never waivered from seeing my light. Her constant vigilance of my light allowed me to step into a higher light and make those choices for myself. If she did not hold that light for me so many years ago, I wouldn’t be the woman I am now.

The light that you hold people in affects you, and it affects them. Think of the most significant people in your life. All the people you come in contact with every day. How do you hold them? When you think of them, do you expand or contract? Do you think harsh things of them, or do you think of how wonderful they are? Do you telepathically send them high thoughts, or do you send them judgment?

As Oprah Winfrey said on her farewell show, “Be responsible for the energy you bring.” This includes how you hold others in your heart and mind.

Guest post on the Grand Life Daily…

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Check out this guest post I had today with my co-author, Rebecca Grado, about DRAMA, DRAMA, DRAMA on the Grand Life Daily blog!

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http://www.grandlifedaily.com/2011/12/drama-drama-drama.html

If you haven’t already, be sure to also check out our new book coming out next month Taming Your Alpha Bitch and the amazing offer we have for members of our community. Click here for more information.

Interview with Alinka Rutkowska of Dream Life Creators Expert Series

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Click here now to hear a recent interview I did with author Alinka Rutkowska. Alinka started an expert interview series called “Dream Life Creators” and invited me to be on as a guest speaking about the Law of Attraction. Was an honor to be on her show!

Dissolving Fear

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What is fear? What is that shadow area? Until it is looked at, fear often exists as a feeling of heaviness, worry or concern. It is a lower vibratory emotion! Those heavier moments are an indicator of fear. To release fear, or any emotion for that matter, we have to be present with it, communicate with it, feel it and then release it.

Emotions are energy in motion. Many of us have been conditioned to suppress our emotions, because we are afraid to feel. This is because as children if we had pain in our childhood, it was easier to move away and not feel our feelings, because they were too overwhelming. Many of us felt that we would die with the pain of those feelings. So we learned ways to suppress them. Many of us turned to food to release the pain so we over ate. Later in life we may have turned to spending money, doing drugs, drinking alcohol or moving fast in life so we would not have to slow down and feel (been there, done that!).

The fact is that we are still attracting from those emotions regardless if we are suppressing them or not. They are still an emotional setpoint until they are released and that is the communication from our energy vibration that the Universe has to bring us more of what we are asking for.

So how can we be aware of our emotions, and more importantly release them so we can create what we want in our lives?

  1. We have to be present, slow down and be real and honest with our emotions. What are you feeling? If you are feeling heavy or dark, ask the emotions to come into your conscious mind. Anything you turn your back on and suppress will grow and become stronger.
  2. When you are willing to stand face what you fear (or whatever emotion you are feeling), the Universe will assist you in releasing and healing it. You just have to ask. The Universe will always send you assistance when you ask for it. It may come through your thoughts as insights; it may come through something you read or hear.
  3. Emotions such as fear can often be faced and transformed by breathing relaxation into the body. Find the energy of fear in your body and imagine that it is leaving your body. Put the energy leaving into a bubble and let it float away.
  4. Fear or any lower level emotion is typically present because you are projecting what you don’t want into your future. You can work with your future self to connect with a future that makes you feel happy and joyful.
  5. Fear is also created when the images of who you are now don’t match the images that you have of who you want to be in the future. Love and acceptance are the keys. Love and accept who you are, not who you will be or should be.

If you love yourself for who you are, you are living in present time which is always the gateway to personal power.

The Last Pity Party

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The biggest thing that I have found, not only within myself, but within clients, is the underlying behavior pattern that even goes beyond “I’m not good enough, I’m not deserving,” those limiting beliefs that we have, is the idea of self-pity.
A lot of people will initially go “That’s ridiculous. I don’t have self-pity.” The thing is, whether you have a little bit of self-pity or whether you have a lot of self-pity, either way it is an issue. We all know those people that are constantly throwing their own little pity parties, and maybe you don’t identify with them. Maybe you’re not constantly feeling sorry for yourself or playing the victim. But I will tell you, if you ever hear yourself say, “Why doesn’t the Law of Attraction work for me? Why is this not happening for me? Maybe I’m not deserving. Maybe I’m not meant to have my ideal body.” This relates to anything; it could be your finances; it could be relationships. If you find yourself in a place of being powerless, in a place of being, “The Universe isn’t supporting me,” all of that is stemming from self-pity.

Again, whether you do it a little bit, even if it’s just a smidge, or you do it a lot, you are coming from a place of absolute powerlessness. What that looks like is, “The Universe isn’t supporting me in this. Why isn’t the Universe supporting me? This stuff always happens to me. Why does this always happen to me? Poor me.” If you keep following those thoughts and following those beliefs, underneath it all you come to this point of, “Oh my gosh, poor me. I can’t attract the guy that I want. I always attract these losers.” Continue to follow those thoughts, whatever they are, and follow them back, and underneath it all you’ll find, “I’m not good enough. I’m not pretty enough. I’m not smart enough. I’m not thin enough.” It’s all, yes, coming from a lack mentality, but beyond that is self-pity.

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Self-pity is something that isn’t just an emotion. It encompasses a lot of things. It’s a mindset; it’s a behavior. It’s literally a habit. People get into this victim space (or even rescuing space) when they’re trying to create something and it isn’t happening. I know I’ve done this many times in my life with my weight where I say to myself, “I’m doing all that I can. I’m eating and I’m working out, but I just can’t lose the last ten pounds no matter what I do.” That’s like, “Poor me.” So then I would be in that space of “poor me,” not even 100% conscious that I was doing it and then from that space, I would go eat chocolate or do something else to sabotage myself.
Based on the Law of Attraction, when you are coming from a space of self-pity, when you are coming from a space of powerlessness, you are in the lowest vibration that there is in the Universe. There is nothing that you don’t have power over. That is the truth! You are not powerless to anything. You are all divine creative beings. There’s nothing that you don’t have dominion over. There’s nothing where you can’t step into a sense of empowerment. When you are in that place of feeling powerless, that’s when you’re in a space of self-pity. Again, just a little bit, it could be a smidge, or it could be a huge full-out pity party parade; it doesn’t matter. It’s all coming from that place.
This whole entire thing about self-pity is that it is a learned behavior! It’s something that we may have learned from our parents. For example, I believe in the Universal Laws and the Law of Attraction, but my dad believes in Murphy’s Law – if anything wrong could happen, it will. You know how people have those framed prints all around their offices, with empowering sayings like, “You can achieve any goal,” or “Reach for any mountain”? He would have “Murphy’s Law” signs all around his office. He definitely believed in, “Something bad is going to happen. Something worse is going to happen.” That’s all from the place of being the victim; everything is negative, everything is going to go wrong, etc.
I learned that space of powerlessness from my dad. I also learned the space of being a martyr, and being a martyr is coming from a place of self-pity as well. I learned that from my mom. I also learned to be a rescuer to my sister. She was the victim and I would rescue her. But to play the rescuer is also a form of self-pity, because the relationship can change in a second. The person that is doing the rescuing can’t actually rescue, because a victim never wants to change. They just want to have someone feel sorry for them. So the rescuer than starts to feel that they are not good enough, because they are not doing their job appropriately by not changing the victim’s circumstances. So they have failed. They are no good and now they say to themselves, “What is wrong with me? Poor me.” So as a child I learned these things by watching my parents. Most of our parents didn’t feel powerful. Did they feel powerful enough to create the bodies that they wanted? To create the finances that they wanted? To create anything that they wanted? Or were they victims to the economy, the gas prices, the war, their bodies, their finances, their jobs, etc.? If you have parents that came from that space, I suggest you look within yourself because you, too, probably learned that somewhere along the way.

smiley sad The Last Pity Party

The biggest thing that I want to touch on as it relates to any area where you are not creating what you want in your life, is that as a child you were in a place of powerlessness. I am sure you are aware that I have two sons. I look at Maxim, the baby (who just turned a year) and I can psychically see the pictures when he’s gibbering to me and he’s getting frustrated because he’s got this little body and he’s at the whim of me. Before he could walk or crawl he went where I decided he needed to go. When I decide to pick him up and move him to a different place, he has to go. He has no choice. He cannot control his own body. So this very powerful being feels powerless because he can’t control his own body. I’m the one that’s guiding him and helping him. I can see sometimes when he’s frustrated and that’s when he starts crying like, “I don’t want to do this. I want to do something else.” He’s powerless; he has to do what I want to do or go where I decide he goes. All of us were like that at a certain point in our lives. Regardless of what kind of family situation we’re in, we all were in a place of being powerless, from a human perspective. Obviously from a spiritual perspective none of us are powerless. But in that space especially as you’re growing up, as you’re a child, you are in a space of powerlessness. You depend on your parents for everything. And if they’re not giving you the type of love or attention that you want or feel you deserve, a lot of times you would go into self-pity to numb yourself, to soothe yourself. It’s like a dog licking its wounds.
We go into this space where we are feeling sorry for ourselves because it makes us feel better. For example, if you are doing that because maybe you believe you have a dysfunctional family, self-pity is the ultimate addiction. It’s the first addiction. It’s before food; it’s before cigarettes; it’s before drugs or alcohol or shopping and overspending. It’s the first real addiction. It is literally an addiction where you continue to feel sorry for yourself. And it does anesthetize us. It makes us not have to really own our feelings and really be present with our feelings. It makes us not take responsibility for our lives and really step into our full power. Again, I could go on and on about self-pity, but I wanted to give you this information because you may be hearing yourself say, “I can’t create my ideal body,” or “It’s not happening fast enough for me,” or “I can’t lose the last ten pounds.” So if there are moments when you feel helpless, and you’re not creating what you want, look at where you may be feeling powerless.
I remember right after I was pregnant for the first time, which was right before I married two clients of mine, I had to find an outfit. So I went to the mall and I’m trying on all these clothes, and I was mortified that I could not fit into even a size 8 and I was like, “OMG, how could I have let myself go?” I left the mall totally disgusted because I couldn’t find anything. I thought, “What am I going to do for this wedding? I’m the one marrying them. What am I going to wear?” I called my friend, Dawn, and I said to her, “Bear with me. I’m in a total pity party. I just need someone to attend it with me.” She said, “Go.” I was crying and said, “I look horrible…my body…I used to look so good.” I threw my pity party and I was totally in that space of self-pity. And it made me feel better, frankly. Being in that mirror with cellulite that I never even thought I had before and looking around and going, “OMG, whose butt is that?” was painful. So by crying about it and talking to her about it, I was able to throw myself a little pity party and then I felt better. I was able to release that emotion and feel better. But it’s important to not stay stuck in that, because if I had stayed stuck in that powerlessness, “Oh, my body is never going to be like it was before,” which is like all those false beliefs and myths, then I wouldn’t have had the power to really step in and own that I am a deliberate creator. I have dominion over my body.
It’s your life! You are the one, as a spirit, as a mind, who decides what you want to create in your life. That goes for any aspect of your life. There is nothing that you cannot create and not have power over when you step into that power as a divine creator. So it’s really important to start acknowledging that.
There is a process that you can do to change: The Four Steps to Lasting Change. The first step is to recognize what the situation is. I am going to use weight as an example for this process, but you can use it for anything you want to change in your life. So, when you’re feeling down, if you’re feeling “My clothes don’t fit me,” etc., recognize, “Okay, I’m not happy with the way I look. In this moment my clothes are feeling tighter on me,” or “I’m releasing weight but I’m not releasing it as fast as I would like to.” Whatever your situation is, just recognize it.
So again, the first step is recognize – recognize what the situation is. The second step is acknowledge, and there are two parts to that. The first part is to ask yourself, “Who is creating this situation?” The “Cliff Notes” answer to that is “I am.” You create everything in your reality. If you truly believe that, then the answer to that is always going to be, “I am. I am the one who is responsible for this.” So again, the second step is acknowledge, and the first question to acknowledge is “Who is creating this?” I am. The second question to acknowledge is “Why am I creating this?” A lot of times people will come up with a lot of different answers: I’m not good enough. I’m sabotaging myself. I’m trying to protect myself. All of these answers, if you really looked at all of them, they all stem from some form of self-pity. So if you can recognize where you are having self-pity, where you are feeling powerless in your own psyche, and then acknowledge it and take responsibility for it, you’ll really be courageous. It takes a lot of courage to realize that, “I’m the one creating this. I’m totally in a place of self-pity. I’m feeling badly about myself and here’s why.” It takes courage to do that.
Once you do that, then you can move on to the other steps. The third step is forgiveness. I’m not just saying, “Yeah, yeah, yeah, I forgive myself,” I’m talking about truly getting into that energy of forgiveness. It’s the same with affirmations, which I have written about before in previous newsletters. Affirmations don’t work if you’re droning on, “I have a healthy and fit body.” You’re not moving any energy. You’re not feeling that. But it is a different thing if you’re in your body and you’re saying, “I HAVE A HEALTHY AND FIT BODY.” As you say it, you feel it! It’s the same thing with forgiveness. You forgive yourself. You let your heart open and you feel that sense of forgiveness for yourself for choosing to be in a place of powerlessness. It was a choice; you chose it. Maybe it was something that you chose as a young child and it continues to be a pattern, behavior, addiction, habit, whatever it is, but now here you are as an adult knowing that you have a different choice. You just forgive yourself for choosing it this time.
The fourth step is change. That’s where you realize that you are a deliberate creator. You are powerful to create whatever you want. You step into that empowerment. You start doing the affirmations. You start using the tools that you’ve learned during this course. Do whatever you need to do – maybe it’s tapping exercises, maybe it’s the holographic universe exercise, or maybe it’s the Salma Hayek exercise that we did. Maybe it’s different meditations or the future-based choices – whatever you need to do. Maybe you need to hire a coach, and I have several coaches in the Coaching Academy who are phenomenal, if you’d like to get some coaching. Many of them are going through their certification, and they would love to help you, and they would probably give you a couple of free sessions.
There’s so much available to you to get in that space of changing. Again, first, it’s recognize when you’re in a place of feeling negative emotions or not creating what you want. Recognize what the situation is. Second, acknowledge it—who is creating it and why? Third is to forgive. Forgive yourself, forgive your mom for teaching you what she’s taught you, forgive the Universe, God/Goddess/All That Is, and forgive whomever else you need to. And finally, change and move into that space of empowerment.

Changing Your Perspective

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Frederic and I watched a very inspiring movie called Soul Surfer. It is the inspiring true story of teen surfer Bethany Hamilton, who lost her arm in a shark attack and courageously overcame all odds to become a champion again, through her sheer determination and unwavering faith.

In the wake of this life-changing event that took her arm and nearly her life, Bethany’s feisty determination and steadfast beliefs spur her toward an adventurous comeback that gives her the grit to turn her loss into a gift for others.

In the movie, one of the characters (played by Carrie Underwood) was showing the teenagers images of things and asking them what they were. She showed an image of a walnut up close, and it looked very similar to a brain. Then the image became bigger to show the actual item. It was really amazing to see that when you are so close to something you can’t see it for what it is. It really made me think about how important it is to change our perspectives, because from the Universe’s perspective, things look much different. We are so up-close to the situations in our lives that it is sometimes hard to get a different perspective.

I always like to say that the Universe has a bird’s eye view on my life, and I need to trust that I can’t see beyond my perspective (again, that is why I have my coaches), because I am too close to a situation. That is when I start to connect with the Universe and the Law of Pure Potentiality. I also start to focus on what I do want and not on the contrast in my life.
For example, if you want to attract someone in your life, but there is no evidence of this person showing up, you don’t know the perspective of the Universe and all that it is orchestrating so that you can meet that ideal partner. From our limited perspective of not having the person in our lives, we can’t see the larger perspective.
Many of you have heard the story that when I created my list of my ideal partner I was living in Redding, California and Frederic was living in Montreal, Canada. I could have NEVER orchestrated the two of us to be at the exact same personal development conference and for us to meet in line. I couldn’t even fathom how all of that would have manifested. But the Universe organized everything to bring me to Philadelphia, Pennsylvania and then to Ellenville, New York to meet my ideal partner. And as they say, “The rest is history.”
My kids are constantly teaching me and reminding me of spiritual truths. It occurred to me the other day when Maxim wanted to play with something, instead of trying to talk to him about why it was dangerous to play with this particular toy (because it was a big boy toy), I just decided to change his focus and gave him another toy. He was fine and went on to play, totally forgetting about the other toy. There are times where I try to talk with the boys about why they can’t do something that might be dangerous, like playing on the stairs (which is important to explain). They are in resistance because they are not able to get what they want, but when I turn the focus off of the thing they can’t do and give them something else to focus on, they are happy.
We do that as adults. We focus on the thing we can’t have or don’t have and talk about it, whine about it, complain about it, get mad about it, etc. While we are doing that, our focus and attention is on what we don’t have (the lack vibration) and we end up feeling resistance (anger, fear, sad, doubt, etc.) and then we get more of the same. But if we just start playing with a new toy, our focus is on something different. This can help change our perspectives and ultimately what we attract into our lives.
When you are feeling negative emotions about something, what new toy can you focus on to shift your perspective?

7 Tips to Abundance

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Here are some simple tips you can use to get more abundant right now.

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  1. Abundant people are always focused on what is right in their lives, instead of what is wrong.

    If you are one of those people that sees the good in a situation instead of the bad, then you are on the right path. Now you want to raise the bar to a higher level.

    But, if you are someone that always sees the bad, you have been programmed in lack and limitation. Start looking at the world and all the people in it for what is good and right, versus what is bad and wrong.

    See the silver lining in each of these bad situations and take some good from it.

  2. Abundant people are always looking for the solution versus the problem. The power of being solution-oriented can never be overstated.

    When things come up in your life, are you stuck in the problem, or do you immediately go to the solution?

    People who have an abundant mind are always looking for ways to solve a problem. They know there is always a solution, always an answer.

    Do you focus on your problems and talk about them, tell stories of how bad they are, try to compete with friends of how bad you have it? To be abundant look for solutions and focus little or no attention on the actual problem.

  3. Abundant people focus on what they can give in a situation, versus what they can take.

    When you go into a relationship, work environment, or any type of interaction are you focused on how to bring and express the best of you so you can contribute, or are you focused on what you can get out of the situation?

    Abundant people know that as they give the best of themselves, they will receive more and more from the Universe like clockwork.

    People with a lack mentality, believe there’s only a limited amount and want to get “their share” so they focus on taking.

  4. Abundant people take 100% responsibility for everything in their lives.

    They know they create their reality, either good or bad. They know they can change it.

    People who come from a lack mentality want to split hairs and blame others for their situation. They blame the government, the economy, their employers, their spouse, their kids, and on and on.

    When you have an abundant mentality and take 100% responsibility you then are empowered to create life the way you want it.

    When You’re Living the Law of Abundance You’re Never Again a Victim.
  5. Abundant people admire and support others.

    People mired in lack consciousness are jealous and envious of others.

    When you look at someone who is more successful, attractive, fun, etc than you judge yourself to be, do you feel inspired by them, or do you feel jealous and envious?

    Abundant people understand there is nothing to compete over, because in an abundant universe, there is more than enough for everyone. There is never anything to be jealous or envious over.

    When an abundant person sees a quality or desires something someone else has, they know they too can create it, and are therefore inspired to do so.

    Jealousy and envy are of the lack mentality, and will only create more lack and scarcity in your life.

    Don’t you want to be free of lack and scarcity?
  6. Abundant people appreciate everyone around them.

    They appreciate their life and every life experience.

    People who come from a lack consciousness are focused on tearing down everything.

    While you are standing in line at the grocery store are you upset because you believe you’re wasting time, or do you take a moment and appreciate you have this moment of virtual peace in an otherwise insanely busy high octane modern world?

    When the spring comes after a long winter and the birds are singing do you listen with appreciation, or do you want to “shut that damn bird up”.

    When you’re in appreciation you’re in abundance. When you’re in anger you’re in lack.

  7. Abundant people know the universe is always supporting them.

    People caught in the quicksand of lack mentality believe the universe short changes them, only supports them some of the time, or not at all.

    People operating in the majestic ease of abundance are in the flow of the universe and will experience more wonderful things which come to them automatically. Because they know the universe is a friendly place and always supporting them, they attract more abundance to them by being prepared and accepting of it.

    People who feel the universe is not supporting them are coming from a false premise that the universe is limited. This thinking is all smoke and mirrors. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Now you have some basic steps you can take to start bringing abundance into your life today.

Belief

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Your beliefs create your reality. A belief is a thought that has been thought over and over until something manifests because of it. Then it becomes “proof” of this belief. That “proof” then solidifies the belief even more. You can change what you believe and then change what you attract.
To discover a belief that you have about a situation (attracting a partner, losing weight, creating a job, etc.) look at a past or current situation in your life. This could be a problem or a challenge you are dealing with, or something amazing you have created. Ask yourself, what would a person who created this have to believe in order to be in this situation? If a person were unable to accept a gift like a trip to an island, what would he have to believe? If a person were having a hard time finding a job and having a difficult time paying his bills, what would he have to believe about reality to create this situation?

What you believe is what you will attract. Your beliefs about anything determine how you attract it, relate to it, and enjoy or not enjoy it.
After you discover a belief that is holding you back, let go of it and create a new belief. How?
There are many ways to transform beliefs. One way is to get quiet, close your eyes, imagine light all around you, and in some symbolic way, remove the old belief. You may see it written out in front of you like on a chalkboard. Imagine you are erasing the letters one by one. Picture the new belief in its place, in big letters. Then write out your new belief, put it where you will see it (bathroom mirror, desk at work, in your car), and say it to yourself with feeling and conviction several times a day.
Think of this as tending to a garden. You have to pull out the weed and then replace the weed with a beautiful flower. But then you have to tend to the flower. You have to water it, cut back the growth, and make sure it is doing okay.
Every time you see this new belief written down, you will be putting attention on it and sending it energy. This will help it become a reality.
Whatever your current situation is, remember that as you are giving more “air time” to feeling abundant, that is what you will create.
I had one of my members of my community, which I call “my family,” call me and suggest that I do a program on how to get a job in this economy. Or I should do a program for those that are struggling financially. The thing is that I do a program to get people in touch with their abundance. That is the key no matter how much lack or abundance you have in your life. It is the same for every person. If you don’t have a job, you are struggling financially, and you feel hopeless, it is because you are not in alignment with abundance. It is law. If you were, you would have abundance flowing to you. If you have a beautiful life and you are in abundance, you will notice how things are constantly flowing to you.
I understand that in the beginning the most challenging thing is getting into the feeling place of abundance. That is really where the real work takes place. I have been there!
I have been at one point $90,000 in debt. I have been in the situation of not having a job and no prospects on the way. It was really easy to go into fear and stay there. It can be very scary! But I took my “job” as a deliberate creator very seriously and I remained in the space of abundance. I believed in an abundant universe even though my outer reality did not reflect that. And in a short time I created a great job and within a few years I was completely out of debt.
The key is to align yourself with fulfillment and abundance. Align your beliefs with the universe being abundant. I promise all will fall into place, because it has to. IT IS LAW!

Thoughts from the Caribbean

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My Sister-in-law’s Wedding

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My sister-in-law was getting married and I talked to a friend of mine. He asked me if I was looking forward to the big bash tomorrow. I immediately told him, “Not really. It will be a long day. I have two kids to contend with.” I immediately realized that was coming from a lack perspective. First, I never “contend” with my boys. I love my boys. I enjoy being with them. They are good boys. They are fun to be with and do not drain me. I realized that it was not true. I was looking forward to it. So I immediately started to ask myself what I was looking forward to. I needed to change my perspective.

I was excited to see Alex in his tuxedo (he was the ring bearer).

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I was looking forward to seeing my sister-in-law walking down the aisle.

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I was looking forward to dancing with my husband.

I was excited to dress up and wear my new dress and new shoes.

I was excited for the rest of Frederic’s family to meet Maxim.

I was excited to celebrate the big occasion.

I was excited that I was getting a brother-in-law.

There was so much I was looking forward to, but obviously in the back of my mind I was thinking limiting thoughts. I was able to shift and change my focus of attention.

Had I not shifted, the day could have been long and the boys probably would have been difficult, or something I would have had to “contend with.”

The wedding turned out to be amazing, and we all had a great time. It reminded me that even though we have done so much work on ourselves, we still have those thoughts that come up. It is important to be aware of them, and then change and shift as I did regarding the wedding. We have that power!

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An Abundant Mentality: The difference between lack and abundance

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When you have an abundant mentality, you’re looking for what is right versus what is wrong.
And we all know those types of people – we may know them personally or intimately (meaning ourselves) – who go into a situation where there could be ten things that are really great, and maybe one thing that is bad or something you don’t want. And that one “bad” thing is exactly what you focus on. That’s why I wrote the book Perfect Pictures as my very first book. It’s about how we’re totally focused on trying to create what’s perfect. In order to do that, we look for the thing that’s wrong, we focus on that, and we try to change it to make everything “perfect.”

Again, with the Law of Attraction, what you focus on expands. So even if you notice all these great things in your life, but then you notice this one bad thing and you start focusing on it, you’re going to literally shift your vibration from abundance to lack.

So it’s important to watch and know – are you a person that is focused on what’s right or what’s wrong with any given situation? Are you in a relationship? You could be in a relationship with a really great guy or woman – are you focused on all the great qualities about this person? Or are you focused on the fact that he or she didn’t do the dishes? Or that he/she didn’t give you a compliment? Or that he/she didn’t do whatever it was?

So it’s really all about where you are focused. That’s number one.

The second thing is that there are two sides of every subject. So there is enough, and on the other side, there is not enough. This is a big one. So again, are you focused on the things that are abundant in your life and that you have enough of, or are you focused on the lack of them?

Abundance accounts for everything: love, time, money, whatever. Are you focused on the fact that you don’t have enough money or are you focused on the fact that you have enough right now?

Are you focused on the fact that there just isn’t enough time? Or are you focused on the fact that you do have enough time, but maybe you just need to organize yourself better? It’s really the perception and the way you look at things and the way your mind automatically starts thinking. Most of us are brought up from our parents, socialization, etc…you know, that whole environment with the lack mentality.

And so, when you can really start catching yourself shifting from these lack to thoughts of abundance – what is right and that there IS enough, then you’re going to totally see a different shift in your outer reality.

The next one is a big one for most people. I will say, one hundred percent or at least 9 out of 10 people, when I privately coach them, their biggest issue is getting to that space of “I am enough.”

And that is the space of abundance – that “I am enough.” And the lack part of it is “I am not enough.”

So when you come from a place of “I am not enough,” who you are is not enough. You are not thin enough, you are not rich enough, you are not good enough, you are not “whatever it is” enough; you’re coming from a lack mentality.

And the most important relationship – the most important point of focus that you have – is the relationship with yourself. And if you can get that right, and start feeling that who you are is enough, then your whole entire world is going to flip completely upside down.

Now, I will tell you that this is not something that is going to happen overnight. It’s not like you are just going to think now that “I am enough” and everything changes. This is something that you will probably have to work on, and retrain within yourself, on a daily basis.
One thing I do want to mention about this is that you are all on a spiritual path, which means that you are on a spiral path – nothing in this life is linear. You don’t go from point A to point B and maybe have an issue about not being enough, and kind of work on that issue and go, “Okay, now that’s done.”

You literally are on a spiral path that moves upwards. What I mean by that is: imagine that you are walking up a spiral staircase, and as you are going up, you may hit a certain point on that path, such as “I’m not enough.” And as you go up, you’re hitting it again, but you’re hitting it from a more elevated place. You’re hitting it from a place where you now have different tools and processes to deal with it.

Maybe you feel bad on some level within you, but now you’re feeling it at a deeper level. So even though you’ve hit that before, “I’ve already felt that and now I’m enough,” and then you hit it again, it’s not for you to beat yourself up and say, “God, I thought I already did this, and now I’m back at square one?”

It’s a matter of knowing that you’re just hitting it at a different level; you’re hitting it at a deeper level. And you’re hitting it from a different place now that you’re more abundant. Now that you’re being programmed and trained to be more abundant, you can come and hit it from a different place.

I will say that when you start to expand (and this may be happening for some of you) any place where you have any type of darkness or unconsciousnesss – or any type of lack for that matter – it’s going to come up and it’s going to scream loudly at you because you’re in the process of releasing it. And so, in order for it to be released and for the abundance and the light to come through, obviously it needs to be released. So the way it becomes released is if it comes and shows itself to you.

So while you go through this process, I want you to be really, really easy with yourself and kind to yourself. And if something comes up that you’re noticing is going to sabotage you, or you’re being cranky, judgmental (or whatever you want to call yourself), and you notice you’re in a bad mood…just really connect with that and go back to that place of, “Am I feeling like I am enough?” Start with the core of who you are and really start feeling.

It’s like going from lack to abundance. If you’re feeling like, “I’m not enough,” get in that feeling place of, “What would it be like if I did feel like I were enough? What would it feel like if I really were valuable?” Really get into that space and feeling like,”You know, I AM enough!”

Because I will tell you this: there is nothing on this planet that can add to you to make you more of who you are. You are enough. And it’s been said by many, many spiritual, high-level beings that have walked the planet that there are about a thousand souls who want to take a body, but obviously only one gets that body.

So simply because of the fact that you are here in a physical body, you are enough. And that’s all you really need to know. If you get that, then you know you are enough. You got the job, you’re here, this is your play. You are here to create what you want to create, this is your life to live, and it’s a very short life in comparison to how eternal our being is. And if you can just get that you are enough and start feeling that you are enough and that you are valuable…once you get over that “Oh, I’m not enough” type of thing…then everything else flows.

Everything is about perspective. Changing your perspective will change your life. If you are resistant to sharing love, time, or anything you have with others, then you are in a space of lack. This perspective can always be shifted easily when you focus on abundance. Focus on what is right versus what is wrong in your life. That is the difference between an abundant mindset and a lack mindset.

I did my Goddess teleseminar and went over by 10 minutes. Someone emailed me and said, “You told us it would only be 60 minutes,” and she was upset. Then I had an email from someone else who told me, “Wow, you gave so much more than you promised you would!” What is the difference? Perspective. One was in lack, focused on what was wrong. The other was focused on abundance and what was right.

Remember that every subject is really two subjects, and it is always your perspective of what makes it so. Change your perspective and your world changes.

CLARITY, CLARITY, CLARITY

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I just had another realization of how important clarity is to our manifestations. Many of you were a part of the survey that I sent out regarding my new book coming out (thank you again!). My co-author Rebecca and I kept going back and forth about what we wanted to call it. The entire time that we were writing it, the title was Alpha Bitch.

Then we started to get some feedback from people in the industry that they could not endorse the book, because of the word “bitch”. So we started to re-think the book title.

In the grand scheme of things, I know that a book title was the least of my worries, but it was still significant in my goals and desires. It was causing us a little stress from trying to “do the right thing.”

What Rebecca and I realized was that we never had the clarity on our market was. Who did we want reading the book? Who was this book going to really affect and ultimately help?

When I met Ali for my interview, I realized that the “who” is someone like Ali – someone who is not an all-out Alpha *beep*, but someone who does go there on a subtle level, where it does affect her, her relationship, and ultimately what she creates and attracts into her life.

Getting that clarity felt like I was experiencing a cloudy day and then all of a sudden, the clouds left and there was just sunshine!

Clarity about your desires is one of the first things I teach, because if you are focusing on what you want, and you go here and there and then over there, then the Universe does not know what you really want. The Universe supports us all the time, but it makes it so much easier when we, ourselves, are clear.

The fact is that when you have many roads in front of you, and you try to go from one road to the next, you can’t get to your destination. If you pick a road and stick to that path, and your intention and vibration are high, all good things must flow to you.

So if you feel any resistance about anything you are creating in your life, ask yourself if you are clear. Are you clear about the vision? Have you written it down? Can you see yourself achieving/attracting what you want? Can you feel it already in your life?

If you said “no” to any of those questions, it could be that you are not clear. If you really can’t hold a strong, clear vision of what you want, there may be areas that need to be filled in.

When you write down what you want, the minute you write it down, it becomes a manifestation. I never have a goal – or even a desire – that I want to move towards without writing it down. It makes it real in the physical world.

Can you not only hold the vision of what you want, but also see yourself in that vision? If you want a partner, house, car, or job – can you see yourself interacting with that person, living in that house, driving that car, or working in that job? If it is a feeling you want to create, can you connect with it in this moment?

Next month I am going to be writing about feelings – how important they are to manifesting what we want, and how most of us shut ourselves off from our feelings so we don’t know how we actually feel. Can you connect with the feelings you will have?

Having clarity is a large part of creating the life that you want. It is the piece that a lot of people skip over, and then they expect to have what they want manifest. I have been doing this work for fifteen years, and here I was without clarity – feeling stress, anxiety, and totally disconnected to myself, my life, and Source.

Get clear about what you want. Use your emotions as your guide if you are not feeling good about what you want. Ask yourself the questions above and move into that clarity.

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